If it isn’t meant to be, then you work your ass out towards it. You burn midnight oils. You stress out. You give fucks fucks and fucks. You go sleepless. You beg. You sacrifice. You suffer. You undergo torture. You torment yourself. You hurt. Unfortunately, humans don’t function that way. You can always rewire yourself. All you have to do is meditate upon the thought enough time, and ta — da, rewired! (You need adequate self confidence too. And absence of sensitivity). But, no matter what you do, if a human isn’t meant to happen, it won’t. And even if he or she happens, it is a trap. More torture for allowing yourself so much torture. A lesson. Getting out of it is the hardest task and you almost never come out of it completely.